A girl I like is turning 18 on December 6th - what should I get her?

We've been out together two times now - nothing very binding yet but I hope (and I think she does, too) that something will come out of it eventually. She is turning 18 on december the 6th (yep, seriously) and it's kind of a big thing here - just like turning 21 in the USA. What should I get her? I know for a fact she's interested in psychology and buddhism (a little). I was thinking about either getting her a bottle of wine and a book or wine + a set of jewelery. What are your suggestions, fellow gentlemen? Thank you in advance.

Views: 187

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Two dates seems pretty early for teenagers to give jewelry gifts.

 

Rather than buying her a bottle of wine ... why not take her out for a nice dinner, and order a bottle of wine while you're there (assuming its legal where you are)?  I'd be more inclined to spend the money to take her out for a good time rather than on stuff.  You're way early in this thing.  Spend your money on doing stuff with her, not giving stuff to her.

 

If it goes well, believe me there will be plenty of time later to spend a bunch on gifts.

 

JB

A fun night out, dinner, and if all goes well a nice kiss.

A big thing because she can now legally buy alcohol? I find gifts of bottles of alcohol to those newly of drinking age to be a cliched and wasted gesture. Unless the recipient has had exposure to lots of kinds of alcohol already, the chance the recipient will especially like your choice is slim, and then she's stuck with a whole bottle of it. [yeah, yeah, yeah; maybe she's been drinking whole bottles of wine for years now; but that's hardly the way to handle a gift or to begin adult drinking]

Jewelry's fine as long as it's fun jewelry - no gemstones or precious metals. For a new relationship, plastic, tin, ceramics (It's called "costume jewelry") are OK. If she knows about jewelry [Does she wear it regularly?], cultured or freshwater pearls are OK (because they cost about the same as plastic). The point is to have the gift match the seriousness (or lack thereof) and duration of the relationship in expense and substance.

Americans rarely give books anymore, so few here will be able to comment on that suggestion. The usual comment is if you get someone a book about her interest, how can you be sure she hasn't already read it? That it's neither too simple nor too technical for her? And, in the US it seems, That she's the kind of person who reads more than 140 characters at a time?

The out-to-dinner idea is fine, too. Just don't be particular about the date. Even when I was engaged, there was competition from girlfriends, parents, and my fiance to take me out "on the day" or "that weekend." Don't presume she's free for you on her birthday.

Something trivial and cute:  a Buddhist figurine, a knickknack, a flower you picked.  By advice from my female friends, NOT jewelry:  jewelry means you're serious.

RSS

Latest Activity

Shane replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"Consumer prices rose 1.7% https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/cpi.pdf Hourly earnings have gone up 2.5% https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/empsit.pdf What are you talking about?"
4 hours ago
Clinton R. Ausmus replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"I never asked why rages weren't rising, I said costs were rising, but rages are staying flat...Meaning they are not rising together...Meaning the American worker can never get ahead...Meaning costs are rising, but wages remain flat...Not a hard…"
4 hours ago
Shane replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"You asked why wages weren't rising. I showed you that they were. Now you're complaining it's not enough. Stop shifting goal posts."
4 hours ago
Clinton R. Ausmus replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"Do you read these links before you post them? (From the Atlantic Story)wages grew faster in 2016...Labor protests like the Fight for $15 movement contributed to minimum-wage increases in several states and cities...Wages for the poorest 10 percent…"
5 hours ago
Sir replied to Pale Horse's discussion They Who Shall Not Be Named in the group The Great Debate
"Nicest thing anyone's said to me on this forum, I think! (sniff)"
6 hours ago
Shane replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"I've never posted those links here before. You're lying again. "The Most Underrated Story About the U.S. Economy Income growth is faster at the bottom than at the top. Thank a growing economy, falling unemployment, and minimum-wage…"
6 hours ago
Clinton R. Ausmus replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"I was exaggerating Shane, I wasn't lying. You've posted it in reply to me at least twice, and once it was only a list of the VA links. The other two it's been a list of links to the other links as well. Not sure if it's the exact…"
7 hours ago
Shane replied to John Muir's discussion Donald Trump Is A Greedy, Creepy, Ignorant Jerk in the group The Great Debate
"You listen to me about as well as you listen to Trump. I'll put this in big letters with small words so you can understand: THIS IS NOT GOOD"
8 hours ago

© 2017   Created by Brett McKay.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service