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A Fraternal Dilemna
Here is the situation, gentleman and ladies:
Tonight, I am being initiated as a DeMolay (a junior Freemason). Up until today, my mother has been supportive of my desire to join this fraternity, but has suddenly begun to accuse me of being sexist for wanting to join. When I pointed out that there are many sororities that I could not join if I wished to, she then stated that no sorority can match the networking that takes place amongst Freemasons, and restated that I am sexist for wanting to join. It would be very helpful if some of you could contribute your perspective, the whole situation is quite confusing.
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Permalink Reply by Carl Monster on -
Read Brett's article on telling your mother to basically shove it. It ain't easy, but it is something every man needs to do at one point in his life.
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Permalink Reply by Rebekah on -
There's no way around the career issues. Women's clubs and sororities are not equivalent to men's, and you should drop that argument.
State one more time the reasons you want to join, then refuse to discuss it further.
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Permalink Reply by Michael D. Denny on -
Tell her that:
1. Being in the Demolay is not like being a Freemason. You're not one of us until you're one of us. As a very active and long standing Freemason, I can assure you, that being in the Demolay does NOT make you a Freemason.
2. Being in the Demolay will not entitle you to anything. There are absolutely zero educational or professional opportunities to be afforded to you that you would not have otherwise been afforded just for being in the Demolay.
3. It is a relatively small organization that hardly anyone outside of it or the Masonic lodge has ever heard of.
4. Jobs Daughters and Rainbow girls, which nationwide, is relatively equal in size and membership to the Demolay, if not actually a bit larger.
5. Believe me, one of the most overrated and overhyped aspects of being a freemason, is the supposed networking. Don't tell yourself when you're 18 or 21 that if you join the Masonic Lodge, you're suddenly going to find a job or promotions. About the best you're ever going to experience is most likely, getting out of a seat belt ticket once or thrice in your life because the patrolman who pulled you over was a brother. Honestly, that is about as good as it gets in modern times.
On the other hand, since you are joining tonight and will already be a member by the time you read this, one of the best things you really can do is simply never mention it again.
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Permalink Reply by Erg on -
The beauty of a secret society is that it is secret, right? Mom doesn't need to be involved in this. Don't lie about it, but don't talk about it.
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Permalink Reply by Native Son on
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BINGO!
The most Mom or anybody else needs to know, is if you're heading to a lodge meeting.
Sounds like someone has her information about the Freemasons from the Simpsons "Stonecutters" episode.
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Permalink Reply by Will on -
The easiest and nicest way is to hear the opinions and not discuss them. Not to justify, argue, or convince, but put up a wall of "nice."
Agree when you can, always be polite, and never explain. Never bring it up. Use phrases like "I'm sure you're right" and "That's an idea" and "OK," without actually agreeing to do anything differently.
This is a distancing move, but when someone's forcing her opinions on you, distance is appropriate.
You don't state your age. She may be able to lay down the law. I think I'd assume until she does that she hasn't.
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