I've met one new friend on an internet website who is a creeper

Why I call him a creeper? Because he called me on the phone a lot, and it's annoying.

So I tried to avoid him because I think that he's a gay (I'm no offense with gays, but I rather not involve with one because I'm a straight)

He even had done 27 missed calls, and guess what he wanted to talk to me about? He said he was traveling in another province and have some fun! Yeah! That's what 27 missed calls are for?


And then I made a mistake. He said he wanted to send me a postcard, so he asked for my house address. I didn't want to be impolite, so I gave him my house address.

Many days passed by... He started to call me a lot again. I avoided his call as usual. But this time, he came to my house!

@#$@!%$!!!

Of course, that's not happy.

Event like this repeats many time: He called me > I don't pick up the calls (20+ missed calls) > He came to my house or sometimes call my house telephone number(I have no idea where he get my house telephone number)

I choose to ignore him and hope he'll eventually stop.

What will you do if you were me?

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Ignore him. Or if it gets really bad, call the cops. Best not to get involved in stuff like this. And never give out really personal, life-threatening details on the internet. EVER. Unless for a perfectly legitimate reason (between known friends, for purposes of business, etc). 

"Politeness" doesn't come into it. You simply don't do that stuff. If he asks for your address, tell him to go fuck himself. 

Depending on just how scary he is:  a) ignore him and hope eventually it will work; b) be straight with him:  "I don't like the way you've been pursuing me.  I don't want you to come to my house.  I don't want you to call me.  Goodbye."  Exude finality.

Being abusive is probably not required.  If he's a psycho (as opposed to merely weird), it's unwise.  If he's not, it's unnecessary.  If it helps... but you don't know him well enough to know that, nor do you want to.

That's my non-expert take.

Go out to lunch with him and ask him what is up.  

Make it clear that he is crossing social lines and you are not happy with that.

If he is gay and interested in you, simply tell him "Thank you, but no thank you."  

Now after this if is still pulls creepy get a restraining order.

I work for a publishing company and several years ago we rejected a manuscript from a quite well known female novelist. I didn't reject it myself but one of my colleagues did and I am editorial director. I had nothing to do with the rejection although I had actually read the novel and told my colleague that I did not like it. She somehow got my home address and started loitering about in the area. When I went out she would be sitting in her car in the roadway and follow me to wherever I was going. One day I was being interviewed on national television about a project that I am involved in and she rang in to the station and made irrational allegations which I could not ignore. For a long time I had not known who she was but one day she followed me to work and sat outside in her car and one of my colleagues recognised her and I actually rang the police. They interviewed her and it transpired she had psychiatric problems and believed I was wilfully jeopardising her career and was waiting for an opportunity to sort me out! Happily we do not have guns everywhere in Ireland or I would have been dead! Apparently she was on medication but had a history of neglecting to take it and it took a long time to actually find that out. It was quite worrying at the time.

A scary story

Happily we do not have guns everywhere average citizens don't know where to acquire guns in Ireland or I would have been dead!

ftfy

You can buy one in the buy and sell. Just the thing if you got a problem with them Foxes.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1OUERFmv5wI

What Will said: ignore. and be clear with him you don't want it.

and don't be afraid to call for back up. armed back up.

Thank you for your replying.

I know this guy online for a year. And had met in real life for probably 2 or 3 months. I thought it's okay to give a phone number to him. But it's not okay at all :(

He isn't seem to be a kind of psycho. But he just did cross my social line a lot.

Shoot straight with him.  Quit being a nancy, and tell him to knock-it-off.

 

In that whole story, you never actually told him to get lost.  You just sit there with your fingers in your ears hoping he'll go away.  Clearly he's not getting the hints you're dropping.  You're trying to be nice and spare his feelings ... but you're actually being evasive and dragging things out.  Quit ignoring, start acting.

 

JB

From your writing style you are not living in the US so what advice I may give regarding law may not be valid. However. Do not meet him for lunch or anything else to discuss this. You need to tell him the next time you see him, which should be soon from what you've posted. Let him know that you do not wish to continue this 'friendship' as his behavior is making you nervous. Tell him you do not want him calling you or following you or communicating in any way with you. Look up what ever laws apply in your country and talk to the police and get their advice. Further, look back on how, where, and what you did when you 'met' him on the Internet. Something gave him the idea that you may be interested in a more 'physical' or proximal relationship. What ever that was don't do that again.

Oh, and as far as this guy goes what ever happens do not say or do anything that might give him hope that the relationship could, maybe, be continued; no hugs, no forwarding addresses, phone numbers, handshakes, or cards. NOTHING.

I don't understand that at all, please move your fern from the window, it's really fucking my view.

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