So I started hanging out with this girl about 3 weeks ago. Everything was going really well. We texted all the time, had a great rapport, went on about 3 "official" dates, ie. drinks, dinner, movie, and we met out a bunch of other times with some friends for drinks, as well (we share a similar group of friends). She introduced me to all her friends and they all seemed to like me, and I even met her family last week at their house for dinner. It was getting to the point where we would even do the "couple" thing and kiss each other goodnight every time we said goodbye. The topic of us dating or becoming "official" come up a few times briefly, but we really didn't discuss it too much. I
Then, all of last week it started to become different. She seemed somewhat standoff-ish, she barely texted me at all, and we didn't hang out once. When I asked her if she wanted to hang out this next week, she said she has plans "but she would let me know".
I know this all sounds petty and stupid, but it just seems like everything took a complete 180. I've never been with a girl where things went to so well and then just seemed to completely drop off. Or maybe I'm just reading too much into this. The only thing I could think of is that because we have a similar group of friends, that everyone started talking and saying "so and so are dating", and maybe she became annoyed at that because we weren't actually dating yet.
So I guess I am asking this:
1.) Am I reading too much into all of this?
2.) If she doesn't respond at all this week, should I ask her again next week if she wants to meet out for drinks/dinner, or is that going to look too desperate?
Also...I'm 25 years old, so this isn't some typical 2 week grade school hookup I'm talking about here. I always get great advice on here, so I look forward to any comments/advice I can get.
I don't think that you're reading too much into it. From your account she's pretty much cut you off. She's not communicating and is putting you off. Something happened. What exactly, I don't know, but it doesn't bode well for you that she's not offering anything by way of explanation.
I suggest calling her up and asking he what's going on. Tell her that you thought things were going well but that she seems to be trying to keep you at arm's length all of a sudden. Ask her why. If she tries to put you off with vague comments, you'll have your answer (she's not into you anymore) even if you don't have a reason. If she gives a reason, then you'll know and be able to stop wondering, and there's a chance that it is something that could be overcome if you want to become a couple. That's an outside chance though, so don't get your hopes up too much.
Don't wait another week though, call her quickly and get it over with.
There's a few possible answers:
1) She viewed it more casually than you did and is now doing something else and doesn't quite understand what you're on about.
2) She was testing it out with you and decided you weren't for her and is too immature to tell you straight up.
3) She is actually that into you and something personal came up that she's not comfortable discussing with you while you're still new.
4) She was into you, but you did something unwitting to screw it up and now she doesn't know how to deal.
5) Something set off her creeper alarm and she doesn't know what to do and you trying to make contact doesn't help the situation.
To answer your questions: No. Don't do that.
For advice, go with what Nathanael offered.
We texted all the time
I agree with Nathanael. Also, texting is okay but I think you should limit your use of this, unless you want to become her cyber boyfriend.
Best of luck. Keep your options open too.
My first guess? You are 25 years old, you should have made a serious move as soon as possible, or stopped being her almost boyfriend.
As Shane said, she was either really wanting you to make that move or she suddenly realized how close yall got. Either way, like I said, you are 25, enough with the hanging out and make a move. This isn't HS nor is it college anymore.