I'm a 3xl size fella, but I've got a 5xl neck.  They don't make 21" dress shirts, they make 20s and 22s.  The 22s are like a circus tent on my body, but the 20s aren't close to buttoning on my neck.  I use extenders, but I'm still getting choked.  Custom shirts are upwards of $200.  
Does ANYONE know where to get decent dress shirts that would fit me that won't make me have to take out a loan?
Please help.  

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My goodness.  I'm afraid I don't have any advice for you, I just was commenting on the fact that I felt bad about having my 19.5" neck when I go clothes shopping.

Best of luck to you sir.  If I can come across anything, I'll be sure to post.

Maybe consider getting the 22 and have it taken in.

I'm afraid the amount of "taking in" would exceed the cost of a custom shirt.  

Tailoring like that is usually not that expensive.  Call around and ask.

Recently got a 22" shirt and had it taken in.  Probably should have done that sooner.  The shirt was about $50 and the tailoring was about $12.  The 22" collar is a tad big, but it doesn't hang down, so I have a comfortable fit. 

I feel your pain, guy.

We sound like we're about the same size and shape - heavy-set, wide shoulders, thick neck.

I vacillate between a 20" neck size and a 21"; and although I can still fit into 2XL shirts, I do so, just barely.

I live in dress shirts as part of the wardrobe of my job. The shirt that fits me best is Casual Male's "house brand" Gold Series Neck-Relaxer Oxfords. They have an elastic type tab for the top buttom that allows the shirt to form to your particular thickness.

The tent size for the rest of your torso is sort of "par for the course." I find that if you tuck the shirt in tight to begin with, bend forwards and backwards, and raise both arms, you will naturally "blouse" the material so that it moves as you move.

I have a rotation of about 6 of these shirts that I wear week-in and week-out. Standard price for each shirt is about $40 to $50. But if you get on the rewards program, you get regular coupons that significantly reduce the price.

Now if only I could find a reliable maker of loafers for my 2XL feet.



Thanks for the detail.  I'm assuming you mean CasualMaleXL? 



Avoid their pricier, upscale shops: DestinationXL, or whatever it's now called.

And simply point and laugh at the $250+ per shirt price tags on the shirts at the affiliiated Rochester Men's Big & Tall stores. That's just ridicuulous, on any budget.

I walked into a Destination XL shop one day.  I walked right back out of it, too.  

I only go in DestinationXL for the shoes. Heaven forbid a regular shoe store carry sizes above size 10, medium width.


The sales racks aren't terrible at any CasualMaleXL store. But for guys our size, we're part of the in-betweeners. Too big for regular department stores, but way too small for much of the clothing available for the truly massive.


I always kid that if only I were a 4X, my options would quadruple fashion-wise.

Although I only wear about an 18" shirt, I've found a lot of great resources for bigger sizes on this awesome site http://www.chubstr.com . Lots of options there for bigger guys with a sense of style beyond what the typical Big & Tall stores offer. Check it out. Hope it helps!

I absolutely agree about chubstr.


Great site.



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