You can wear the same thing to both weddings. Lots of men only have one "formal" outfit.
What time of day are these weddings? Where are the ceremonies? Where are the receptions? Is a dresscode indicated?
What color is the paper of the invitations? What color is the writing? Are there images, or just text? Photos, or simple line drawings? [If you're in advertising, you probably recognize that details like this can indicate a "mood" or "feeling" - or, in this case, a level of formality.]
It's perfectly acceptable to wear the same suit to both events. Unless it's particularly distinctive, most people won't even notice, and even if they do, they're unlikely to care (unless it's really ugly). A grey or navy suit (or similarly basic color and pattern) will not stand out. Change up the shirt/tie and you'll have two very different outfits for those who are at both events and paying attention to what you wear (which probably won't be many people, since you're not the one getting married).
Rebekah: both weddings fall in the "just formal enough to be wearing a suit", but I wouldn't be confortable wearing anything else. You're right about "reading the mood" in the invitation, and also spending so much time with this people gives me a good idea of the kind of wedding they will be having.
Nathanael: thanks for the advice on colour and combinations.
Finally: really? same suit? I never would have tought that was appropriate...
My 1958 etiquette book says a businessman wearing a suit every weekday could get by with owning only 3 all-season suits. That's wearing suits twice in the same week, in the same place, let alone twice in the same season, in different places. And that was the early end of the Mad Men era.
I got married last November. The only men where I can remember what they wore are the groom, groomsmen, the Priests, and my father. And it's not that I've forgotten. I couldn't have told you the day after my wedding, either. And I can't remember what any non-bridal-party-member, male or female, wore to any other wedding I've attended, except what I wore. As long as you're not "that guy" who's dressed inappropriately, no one's paying attention.
I can't figure out how to reply to a specific post! I hit the "Reply" button below each post nad nothing happens... maybe it's my old Safari.
Anyway, that's good news for me, Rebekah: I'll just concentrate on the shirt and tie.
:) < -- happy copywriter.
Shirt, tie and shoes can all be changed out giving you a different look for each occasion.
What colour is the suit BTW?
Hi, Steve. Not sure if you mean the one I intend to buy (most likely grey) or the one I used at my wedding (black, of course).
A grey suit will certainly give you more scope for shoe options.
you could could go with a white shirt, maroon/plum tie and black shoes for one day, and a nice blue light shirt, navy tie and oxblood shoes for the other.
Obviously, they are just ideas I'm throwing out there, but you get the picture.
(the second look gives you a chance to channel your "inner James Bond"). ;)
Well that's pretty much the kind of "combo" i was thinking about, but asking around with my coworkers it seems like nobody is going to wear a full suit (at least for the first wedding), and the groom himself told us to "wear wathever we feel like".
That is very confusing for me, as I don't wan't to show up overdressed. I guess I'll try some sports jacket with less formal troussers and shoes, keeping in mind the color combinations you all have recommended.
My inner James Bond is pissed off...